There is another quote that I am quite fond of and which capsulizes the principles I am putting forth here is nicely said in a quote by Atticus
"She fell for the idea of him, and ideas are dangerous things to love" - Atticus
Ideas like the mind are temporary - they come, and they go. What good is a love like that to anyone? How can that be love if it is not eternal? It is as Shakespeare says: Love is not loves which alters, when alteration finds but bears it out even to the edge of doom."
Love is like peace - it has to be forever, or it is not love and it is not peace. For love and peace to be real,which is always outside the ideal then they must be infinite and eternal like our true identity - our true Self.
To reinforce and reiterate what am saying, here is a poem written by Elizabeth Barret Browning (Robert Browning's wife) that says what I am saying here so much more beautifully...
Sonnets from the Portuguese 6: Go from me.
If thou must love me, let it be for nought
Except for love's sake only. Do not say
I love her for her smile ... her look ... her way
Of speaking gently, ... for a trick of thought
That falls in well with mine, and certes brought
A sense of pleasant ease on such a day'—
For these things in themselves, Belovèd, may
Be changed, or change for thee,—and love, so wrought,
May be unwrought so. Neither love me for
Thine own dear pity's wiping my cheeks dry,—
A creature might forget to weep, who bore
Thy comfort long, and lose thy love thereby!
But love me for love's sake, that evermore
Thou may'st love on, through love's eternity.
The point of this particular post is remembering to live and love in reality which is always the Present Moment and forget your ideals, conditions and expectations of what love should be. Just let it be. It is so much more than you could ever imagine in your head.
Get out of your head and into life NOW.