She fell in love with the idea of him and ideas were dangerous things to love - Atticus
Don't fall in love with an idea of reality. Ideas aren't real, even though they may appear so in the physical if you hold them long enough and with enough conviction. There are a lot of false appearances in the physical. For example, disease and poverty. These are egoic manifestations, not Spiritual. They came into the physical via the egoic mind, not the true mind.
Neither fill your head with ideas and expectations of life, for unless you are Self - Realized, they go against the manifestations and demonstrations of your true Self behind the veil of your cognition. In reality, life is living itself while you as mind are witnessing it. You as mind are not the creator or doer of life, you are the witness, the revealer. If you are creating and holding your own egoic thoughts while your true Self is shining through the mind into the physical, then you are superimposing your egoic ideas onto the world stage. These thoughts will colour, distort, delay, and diminish the pure demonstration of Spirit shining through the mind, blessing the world with its Presence.
Fall in love with reality itself, outside the illusion of the 'Thinking Persona". Outside your idea of this and expectation of that. The thinking mind is the egoic mind as it can never ever be in the present moment. Only the Being mind can be.
Once the false self falls away, once you are free of the illusion of being a separate egoic consciousness to Consciousness/Spirit itself, your true Self and the reality of your infinite eternal nature will be revealed both in the mental and in the physical. In the same moment you will be liberated from the thoughts and emotions that at one time ruled your existence. Once you know yourself as Spirit, you will never again be subject to the minds desires and wants. You will master the mind as opposed to serving it.
Whatever shape the present moment is in, let it be. Be the love in it. Be guided by Soul as Awareness rather than the thinking mind. This is done by being as deeply present in the moment itself until the illusionary self dies and the true Self is revealed. The more present you become in the moment the more the ego dies. This is because you are no longer rising in thought outside your temple of Present Moment Awareness where intuition/guidance is received. Until you are no longer IN the moment but the Presence OF the moment. One goes from being IN the moment to being the moment itself which of course is never personal as all thinking has ceased. One can only entertain a personal sense of self when one creates and take thought. When one lives within the being mind, one is guided by the impersonal aka true Self/Spirit.
People often equate love with wanting but true love waits for nothing, therefore love the moment in the same way as you would your child; with all your heart (subconscious/awareness) and all your mind (consciousness/attention) and all your soul (awareness/present moment) and watch it blossom. Expect nothing, give everything.
Love for love's sake only" - Elizabeth Barret Browning.
And thou shalt love the Lord thy God (Spirit or true Consciousness) with all thy heart, (subconscious awareness) and with all thy soul, (present moment awareness) and with all thy mind, (conscious attention) and with all thy strength (body); this is the first commandment… There is none other commandment greater.” - Mark 12:30-31
When you align the conscious mind, the subconscious mind, Soul, and Spirit in the reality of Now (The totality of their being - constituting the present moment) magic happens. One begins to see the extra in the ordinary, bringing to life a festival of lights as time stands still in the Oneness of Being Now.
The true self cannot come into the physical except through mind consciousness. If mind consciousness is busy creating thought itself, - if the I am of mind consciousness is busy creating its own thoughts, then the channel (its very I am-ness) for spiritual guidance and vision is veiled and lost. What will be manifested in the physical then is man's idea of reality, which of course is no reality at all. Sickness, disease, poverty, war, murder etc are all manifestations created by billions of minds that have clogged and veiled there I am-ness, their minds with ideas they have created in ignorance of their true Self as Spirit.
Love is found outside what your idea of love is.